Besides asking for what you look like, all your physical stats, whether you actually have any real talent or special skills and what your limits are for nudity, one other thing they ask on that form is whether you are willing to kiss someone of the same sex, opposite sex or not at all. I gave it a fair amount of thought and decided to check the box for same sex kissing. It made me think of that Katy Perry song--I Kissed a Girl (and I Liked It). I decided on same sex versus opposite sex or none at all for a variety of reasons. The main one for no opposite sex kissing is that I really don't want to kiss any man other than Bob. It would just weird me out and I don't think Bob would be too keen on it. Bob is saying as I am writing this that he would be okay if that scene came with a waiver to put towards earning my SAG card. What a generous husband I have!
I decided against checking the no kissing at all box because I don't want to rule out what could be an interesting role. I have so many gay and lesbian friends that it all just seems pretty normal to me. And it's not like I haven't kissed a girl before. I think it was Kinsey that made the scientific observation that most people fall along a continuum for hetersexual to homosexual. With very few people being a 10 for either. I would say I probably fall around a 7 or 8 for heterosexual. I have certainly been attracted to or had crushes on women but far more so on men. I did some experimentation in college but mostly realized, at least with that particular woman, that what I was really craving from her was the closeness you have with a girlfriend when you are very preadolescent, not really sexual as much as genuine innocence and intimacy. Like holding hands and skipping together or giggling secrets in each other's ears. Where you have a physical closeness that is joyful and energetic. Anyway, all this is to say is that I don't really have a problem with kissing a woman for a scene. But, I seemingly have a problem with saying that publicly or else I would have written that in when I was blogging about filling out the form earlier. I don't really know why I hesitated about blogging on that. Maybe it's because it's such a mixed group of people reading this or maybe it's my own latent issues. I spoke with my Kelly about this and she was great. She made a really good statement to me about how my opening up about this might give people a different perspective or even permission to think about this for themselves. I may be making more of it that what it needs to be, but for some reason, it just didn't flow back then.
One other reason I decided on same sex versus opposite sex kissing relates to my OCDness and sometimes illogical thinking.... but....I also think women keep their mouths cleaner. It was pointed out to me that it's probably a very case by case basis for either men or women, but somehow, I think the odds are just better that a random woman I might be paired with is going to have a cleaner mouth and better oral hygiene that any random man. Sorry guys--it's just a gut feeling. I think women just think about and act on that kind of stuff more than men do.
I don't know if anything will ever come of me checking that same sex kissing box, but again, I love the whole process of what it provokes and promotes in my thinking, acting and being.
I decided against checking the no kissing at all box because I don't want to rule out what could be an interesting role. I have so many gay and lesbian friends that it all just seems pretty normal to me. And it's not like I haven't kissed a girl before. I think it was Kinsey that made the scientific observation that most people fall along a continuum for hetersexual to homosexual. With very few people being a 10 for either. I would say I probably fall around a 7 or 8 for heterosexual. I have certainly been attracted to or had crushes on women but far more so on men. I did some experimentation in college but mostly realized, at least with that particular woman, that what I was really craving from her was the closeness you have with a girlfriend when you are very preadolescent, not really sexual as much as genuine innocence and intimacy. Like holding hands and skipping together or giggling secrets in each other's ears. Where you have a physical closeness that is joyful and energetic. Anyway, all this is to say is that I don't really have a problem with kissing a woman for a scene. But, I seemingly have a problem with saying that publicly or else I would have written that in when I was blogging about filling out the form earlier. I don't really know why I hesitated about blogging on that. Maybe it's because it's such a mixed group of people reading this or maybe it's my own latent issues. I spoke with my Kelly about this and she was great. She made a really good statement to me about how my opening up about this might give people a different perspective or even permission to think about this for themselves. I may be making more of it that what it needs to be, but for some reason, it just didn't flow back then.
One other reason I decided on same sex versus opposite sex kissing relates to my OCDness and sometimes illogical thinking.... but....I also think women keep their mouths cleaner. It was pointed out to me that it's probably a very case by case basis for either men or women, but somehow, I think the odds are just better that a random woman I might be paired with is going to have a cleaner mouth and better oral hygiene that any random man. Sorry guys--it's just a gut feeling. I think women just think about and act on that kind of stuff more than men do.
I don't know if anything will ever come of me checking that same sex kissing box, but again, I love the whole process of what it provokes and promotes in my thinking, acting and being.
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